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Hi Lillian,

As the others have said, the later books go into more detail about sex/union. A few things to add, each person we are with, we take a part of them with us, good and bad. And if our partner is with many people, they bring those people’s energy with them. Anastasia does give a good description on how to break the ties you had with past partners. I forget which book it is in. Other spiritual teachers talk about cord cutting. I think this can be helpful, along with purging of the energy from those people.

As far as your current relationship, I think you can get to this transcendent experience by coming together to co-create. We generally think this has to result in a child but it may simply be sending out your energy into the universe as they say sex is a huge portal, one which the dark side wants to tap into. I’ve heard that priests in Atlantan times were single and channeled sexual energy into creation such as creating crystals. So if you feel obligated to have sex or feel that one partner is using your body for their purposes, this is not co-creation. And focusing on the fleshly desire will lead to a less than satisfactory outcome for both people. I think this is where people start to look elsewhere to find this connection. They will never find it no matter how many people they are with, if they simply focus on this lust. They will continue to feel this lack of connection, which they intuitively know comes from sex. And the more people they are with, the harder it will be to get this connection.

Another huge thing that affects every aspect of our lives is love for ourselves. As the saying goes, love your neighbor like you love yourself. But if you have little to no love for yourself, you will have little to no love for someone else. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Not that you don’t feel love for others but you will constantly be looking outside yourself for someone to love you. It will be difficult for others to fulfill this for you as each of you is trying to pour from a half filled cup.

Hope this helps. And there are no wrong answers, regardless of what you decide.

Amber